The Life You Live Vs. the Life You Want to Live:
How to Finally Achieve What You Really Want
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Take a break for a few minutes from whatever you were doing before reading this article. Clear your mind of errands to run, projects to complete, racing thoughts of all kinds. And think for a moment about your life and these two words:
Are you ready to stop dreaming and start living? Keep reading for five tips to achieve the life you really want.
These two premises, one being an outcome that is without doubt, the other a circumstance that nobody can predict or guarantee, are capable of explaining your whole life … and why it’s not exactly how you wish it were right now.
When we have great "certainty" there is an urge for most of us to seek “uncertainty.” For instance, some people when surrounded by great certainty -- such as while in a steady, secure job or in a committed long-term relationship -- say they are bored or are not feeling alive. They feel they’re not using their talents to the maximum, not feeling that excitement in their marriage, not feeling like they’re living the life they always imagined.
Yet, when we have great uncertainty in our lives, as many now do during these financial times, we seek greater certainty. Suddenly a steady marriage feels supportive and necessary, a secure job a blessing.
Likewise, when we have great certainty we're willing to take greater risks in order to achieve a certain level of uncertainty, but if we are living with great uncertainty suddenly even the smallest of risks seems like too much.
Whichever side you are on right now, certainty or uncertainty, really isn’t important, however. What is important is that you realize you are likely always seeking out that which you do not have.
It’s a classic case of “the grass is always greener on the other side.”
The solution? Embrace the present moment, whatever it may be.
Change is Good, as Long as You’re Living in the Present
Always seeking what you do not have keeps you in a constant state of unrest. You are continually wishing your life were different in some way, and in this way can never truly feel content, fulfilled or even happy.
But this is not to say you should never strive for change. Rather, you should embrace what you have right now, and then take the steps to go after your dreams. It takes effort on your part to do this -- to accept and embrace the here and now while opening yourself to whatever the future will bring.
Again, this is not about wishing for the future to the extent that you miss out on today. Always at the forefront of your mind should be living in the moment.
Unwind and Embrace the Present Moment!
Sometimes our lives become so busy we have to schedule ourselves into our schedule daily, weekly, and monthly. Relaxation takes a bit of planning to get your mind and body to really calm down and stay present even in the moment. Having a "what if" crises response plan can make all the difference to stay relaxed in the moment.
This deceptively simple premise is very difficult for many people. A major part of the problem is that most people are living their lives to please other people, or they are living the life they think they should (rather than the life they really want). In so doing, they often want to ignore the present moment because it does not feel true nor right to their hearts.
Your first step, then, should be to identify what it is you want … then start taking the following steps to get you there.
Are You Ready to Have the Life You Really Want? Then Follow These Steps
In the tips that follow you’ll learn ways to set realistic goals and achieve desired outcomes that you will achieve by being in the moment everyday with what you want to do, will do, and that you then do -- to achieve exactly what you want to in your life journey starting now … today!
Instead, focus on the many good things in your life and be grateful for what you have, especially the things you may take for granted, like food, shelter, your health and people who love you, and whom you love in return.
The goal of these steps is three-fold:
- Allow you to feel happy and at peace with your life how it is right now
- Help you achieve and maintain a positive mental attitude
- Remind you of the importance of living in the present
As you naturally begin to adopt these three premises, you’ll find you’re satisfied with your life rather than continually seeking something different. Yet, at the same time you’ll notice positive opportunities await you each and every day. They’re there now, and yours for the taking -- as soon as you stop focusing on what you do not have and embrace all that you do.
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